Hello Mama,

I'm almost back to normal. It took an extra visit to the dental surgeon but that visit was painless.😅 We were able to have steaks with our parents for a belated Father's Day. It was a nice visit with both sets of grandparents. 😍

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During some down time this week, I listened to a lady talking about teaching your children about the "mental load" we have as moms. At first I was taken aback thinking, my kids do not need to burden themselves with all the things Mama worries about! As I listened more, I chuckled to myself. I am sharing the mental load with my kids. I just don't verbalize it to them yet.

Here are a few things I took from the 30 minute talk...

The Mental Load

What is the "mental load"? It is all that information constantly running in your head. The worry. The anxiety. The grocery list. The next trash day. The last time you cleaned the

Let's take going out to dinner. Going out to dinner should be easy, right? At least in my husband's mind (maybe most dad's), but my brain starts running.... Do the kids need to change their outfits? Will that type of food stain if they make a mess? What are the kids going to eat? This kid didn't nap and slept terrible last night. I'll need to be on my A game to stay ahead of the meltdown. What will I eat that can be halfway enjoyed while kids hang on me? Are the tablets charged for backup? What toys can we bring that will entertain them the longest? I hope we get seated at a booth so we can "trap" the kids in. Will it be crowded and overstimulating? Have the kids had to sit too long already today? Do I have enough diapers and wipe? What about a change of clothes incase of an accident?

I could go on and on with all the things that run through my head, as I'm sure you could as well.

The Solution

Yes, Dad can and will help get things ready to leave and can help entertain overstimulated kids while at dinner but... that doesn't always help especially if you are having to tell Dad everything that needs to be taken care of and why.

Even the little ones can grab their favorite toy, or shoes, or drink cup, or whatever attachment item they need. As they get older and can handle more responsibility add more things to their "list" of what to do.

Okay but How?

Start by setting the expectations. "We are going out to dinner at Pro Tip: This bag is a small bag so they cannot bring every toy.

Reminders are always helpful in this process because it won't happen overnight. But you can begin to ask questions like, "we are leaving in 5 minutes to go to dinner. Is there anything you need to do or want to get?" Then you, Mama, get it off your brain. No really! Stop worrying about it and let them deal with the consequence of forgetting that one toy they wanted to bring.

One more way...

Use the Daily Tasks and Routine Checklist. Start small and stay as consistent as possible.

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I am in the thick of reminding and reminding my littles of the routines and expectations too. Since our daily routines have changed since summer break (and my wisdom teeth extractions) these routines have been all messed up and mostly forgotten. I was starting to feel the pressures of the "mental load". However, I know that with more practice, especially with my 2 year old, we will get back into the swing of things. I also needed to remind myself (again) that I must communicate when I'm feeling that pressure.

Until next time, I'll be praying that you can stop feeling 🎵Under Pressure! 🎵 and begin these simple tasks and routines with your littles.

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